We all want children that emulate the virtues that are important to us, but this is something that doesn't happen naturally on its own. It takes purpose in your parenting and staying consistent in your efforts. It is hard word, especially if you get sidetrack from time to time, as we all do, but so worth every effort to raise children with virtues.
5 Tips to Raise Children with Virtues
I'm still working on my own virtues from time to time, but I know that having a plan of action is important to reaching our goal to raise children with virtues. Having two adult children already and knowing what things we did that worked well, I would love to share with you these tips that we are doing with our younger children, and what new things we are doing that are good things.
- Focus On Habits – Habits, both good and bad, are started at a very young age. It is dangerous to think a child will grow out of lying, being mean or being lazy. It is true to human nature that the more we do something the harder it is for us to undo that habit. If a child is showing undesirable habits at a young age and they are not corrected, these will continue and grow into their adulthood. It is so important to understand the need for focusing on habits when your children are younger, to help them grow into good habits that only become stronger with time.
- Identify Where Your Children Struggle – As parents, we know where are children struggle most. In our home, we have had to deal with lying, cheating, stealing, selfishness, being unkind and dishonor. Thank God, not all at once and not all in the same child, but these things poked their head early in our children's lives and being able to identify them early, gave us the ability to focus on these habits and work diligent to teach the opposite of what they were struggling with daily.
- Use Scripture to Train Your Children – We love using scripture to train our children. There is no better way to teach virtue than through the verses that are all through the Bible to help us in our daily walk. Teaching children scripture at a young age will make it easier in your parenting and easier for them to learn and emulate the virtue you desire them to have evident in their lives.
- Praise Them for all Improvements – If you know that your child struggles with lying and you see them speaking the truth, especially in difficult situations that lying would be easiest, you own it to that child to praise them for making the virtuous choice. The more we praise our children the more they grow. They desire our praise and acceptance, so giving it to them freely in your efforts to raise virtuous children will only improve your child's ability to grow in them.
- Demonstrate the Virtues in Ever Way Possible – If we want our children to be truthful, we need to be truthful in our own example. We have found that even as powerful as that life lesson can be in our efforts to raise children with virtues, we improve the lessons in what it means and look like by purposefully demonstrating these virtues through stories, illustrations and anything that we can share with them that prove to be good things.
We Choose Virtues
We Choose Virtue is one of the products that can help you, as the parent, implement all 5 of these tips with ease and the children will absolutely LOVE it.
The children's card are bright and colorful, with “I am ….” the virtue on the front, along with a picture of the character that is highlighted in the short story that is on the back of the Parent's cards that demonstrates this virtue in action. On the back of the children's cards, there is a scripture verses and an easy to learn sentence that the child will repeat and memorize that states, “I am a truth teller. I am NOT… a liar, a thief, or a cheater and I don't change the truth to get my way.”
We have laminated and put our children's card on a binder ring for easy practice.
These can easily be used as memory work and for copywork in your homeschool.
The We Choose Virtue Parent's Cards is all you need to teach your children virtue. Each card has the same colorful picture that the children's cards have plus they have detailed ways for the parents to children into making each virtue their own. This will make it easier to demonstrate ways that virtues look through our actions.
The pictures on the children's cards will be easy for them to remember these demonstrations of virtues through the animated character on the card.
I love these Virtue Review Cards that can be used to praise your child's accomplishments and the areas that they need to work on, without making a big deal about it. I have laminated these and put my children's names on them, so I can then use a dry erase marker to easily praise them and highlight where they need to work on better the next day.
I love how the butterfly and the caterpillar are perfect illustrations of what virtues are displayed in their day and which ones still needs some development.
All of these tools are included in the Homeschool Package.
If you want to go further with praising your children for their improved virtues, these Virtue Awards can be added to your order. We have laminated ours and use dry erase marker to award a virtue that has been present all week long. At the start of a new week, the reward goes back on the binder ring and the child works to earn more awards.
I have been compensated to review We Choose Virtue and I can say that it is a good thing, and I know that your family will agree!
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